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[01092024] Pray for Rain? Be ready to deal with the mud!

Life often presents us with complex choices, where our desires come with accompanying sacrifices. The wisdom in phrases like “If you pray for rain, be ready to deal with the mud” and “Accept the package with an open heart and don't rid yourselves of the bad and the good” offers us a profound perspective on how to navigate these choices and embrace the full scope of life’s experiences. Together, these ideas offer a guide on how to find balance and, ultimately, fulfillment.

The Importance of Vigilance

At the core of balancing desires and sacrifices is the necessity of vigilance. This vigilance is about remaining self-aware, thoughtful, and adaptable as life evolves around us. Desires often appear alluring, but they come with a cost—be it time, energy, or other resources. In pursuing what we want, we must ask ourselves, What am I willing to sacrifice?Vigilance helps us maintain clarity in this process, allowing us to weigh the value of what we seek against the cost it demands.

Being vigilant doesn’t mean living in constant caution, but rather being conscious of the potential consequences of our choices. When we’re mindful, we can approach desires with a realistic understanding of the effort and sacrifices they will require, ensuring that we are not blindsided when challenges arise.

Embracing the Package

We often think of life in terms of separating the good from the bad, striving to hold onto the good and discard the bad. But life isn’t a series of separate, isolated events—it’s a complex and interconnected experience. The rain that nourishes us may also bring mud, and the challenges we face often coexist with the blessings we receive. To live fully, we must embrace the entire package.

When we accept both the good and the bad with an open heart, we cultivate resilience. The tough moments become as important as the joyous ones because they teach us, strengthen us, and shape our character. We learn to see life not as a series of ups and downs but as a continuous journey where both moments of ease and difficulty coexist and contribute to our growth.

Balancing Desires and Sacrifices

Balancing desires with sacrifices is not a one-time decision but an ongoing process. It’s about making choices that align with our values and being willing to let go of things that no longer serve our higher purpose. This requires a level of maturity and flexibility that allows us to recalibrate as circumstances shift.

For example, pursuing a demanding career might require sacrificing some personal time, while prioritizing family might mean delaying or scaling back certain professional ambitions. Neither path is inherently right or wrong—it depends on what you value most at any given moment and your willingness to make sacrifices for it. 

Balancing desires and sacrifices means constantly reflecting on what is most important to you and being prepared to adjust as life unfolds. Sometimes, what was once a priority may lose its importance, and being able to recognize and accept this shift is key to staying balanced and fulfilled.

A Path to Fulfillment

By combining the insights from both phrases—dealing with the mud after the rain and accepting life’s full package—we can craft a meaningful and fulfilling life. Instead of striving for perfection or resisting the challenges that come with our desires, we learn to embrace all of it: the struggles, the setbacks, the rewards, and the joys. Each part of the journey adds depth to our experience and teaches us valuable lessons.

Ultimately, fulfillment is not about eliminating the bad or holding onto only the good. It’s about recognizing that life is complex and multifaceted, and that true happiness comes from finding balance and meaning in all of it. When we approach life with open hearts and a willingness to embrace both the rain and the mud, we find resilience, purpose, and a deeper sense of contentment.

By embracing the totality of life—desires, sacrifices, the good, and the bad—we walk a path that leads to lasting fulfillment, one that honors both our dreams and the lessons learned along the way.

[27082024] Mengadu Domba: A Cultural Nuance in Malaysia

 

What is "Mengadu Domba"?

In Malay, "mengadu domba" literally translates to "complaining like a goat." However, it's more than just a simple phrase; it's a cultural nuance that describes the act of spreading rumors or gossiping, often with malicious intent. It's a common social phenomenon in Malaysia, where information can quickly spread like wildfire, sometimes leading to misunderstandings, conflicts, and even damage to reputations.

Why is it a Problem?

• Misinformation: "Mengadu domba" can lead to the spread of false information, causing unnecessary stress, anxiety, and harm to individuals and communities.
• Disunity: Gossiping can create divisions within communities, as people may become suspicious of one another and form cliques.
• Damage to Reputation: False accusations or rumours can tarnish a person's reputation, making it difficult for them to rebuild their relationships and trust.

Islamic Perspective on "Mengadu Domba"

While there isn't a specific verse or hadith directly addressing "mengadu domba," Islamic teachings strongly emphasize the importance of truthfulness, honesty, and avoiding harmful speech. Here are some relevant verses and hadiths:

• Quran, Surah al-Hujurat, verse 12: "O you who have believed, avoid much suspicion, for indeed, some suspicion is a sin. And do not spy on one another and do not backbite one another. Does one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Indeed, you would abhor it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is ever Accepting of repentance and Merciful."
  
  يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ

• Quran, Surah al-Hujurat, verse 6: "O you who have believed, if a fasiq (impious person) comes to you with news, verify it, lest you harm a people unknowingly and then regret what you have done."
  
    يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِن جَاءَكُمْ فَاسِقٌ بِنَبَإٍ فَتَبَيَّنُوا أَن تُصِيبُوا قَوْمًا بِجَهَالَةٍ فَتُصْبِحُوا عَلَىٰ مَا فَعَلْتُمْ نَادِمِينَ

• Hadith (Bukhari and Muslim): The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Avoid envy, for it destroys the good deeds as fire destroys wood."

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ إِيَّاكُمْ وَالْحَسَدَ فَإِنَّ الْحَسَدَ يَأْكُلُ الْحَسَنَاتِ كَمَا تَأْكُلُ النَّارُ الْحَطَبَ أَوْ قَالَ الْعُشْبَ

• Hadith (Muslim): The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Day of Judgment should either speak good or remain silent."
  
  حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ أَبِي حَصِينٍ، عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ "‏ مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلاَ يُؤْذِ جَارَهُ، وَمَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيُكْرِمْ ضَيْفَهُ، وَمَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيَقُلْ خَيْرًا أَوْ لِيَصْمُتْ ‏"‏‏.‏

• Hadith (Ahmad): And the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, 'Shall I not inform you about the worst of you?' They said, 'Yes,' he said, 'Those who spread gossip, those who sow discord between friends, and those who seek out the faults of the innocent.'

وقال ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ : " ألا أخبركم بشراركم ؟ قالوا : بلى ، قال : المشاؤون بالنميمة ، المفرقون بين الأحبة ، الباغون للبراء العنت " (رواه أحمد) .

How to Avoid "Mengadu Domba":

Verify Information: Before sharing any information, make sure it's accurate and comes from a reliable source.

• Think Before You Speak: Consider the potential consequences of your words before sharing them.
• Focus on Positive Communication: Instead of spreading rumors, focus on building positive relationships and sharing uplifting news.
• Address Issues Directly: If you have a problem with someone, talk to them directly instead of gossiping about them.

"Mengadu domba" is a pervasive social issue in Malaysia that can have serious consequences. By understanding the dangers of gossiping and taking steps to avoid it, we can create a more harmonious and positive society, especially from an Islamic perspective.